I have already blogged about visitation dreams in the past. The moment you realize you saw a loved one last night and it was so vivid, you could swear it was real? It had happened to me last summer, and it was the most amazing dream experience I have ever had. Being surrounded by intellectuals, scientists who believe in the rational and empirically backed up facts, I totally understand if you stop reading right about now. But for those of us who believe that there are some things that science just can't explain, kindly all indulge me... ;)
Let me first confess shamelessly that ghosts or, the idea of them, scare the crap out of me. This has been the case since I can remember. That is the reason why I still sleep with the covers all the way up, why I'm not a fan of the dark and why I still race like a bullet when I get a drink of water in the middle of the night (and turn the lights on if I have to). Of course, shows like Unsolved Mysteries (the god damn music...), Are You Afraid of The Dark?, La Boutique aux Maléfices, The X-Files, and all documentaries of the sort didn't help my case while growing up. Yet, I couldn't look away. I wanted to know what happened and discover more about this subject and understand it.
Naturally, when the topic of entities, spirits or ghosts comes up, I can't help myself. I tune it and listen to what others have to say on the matter and what if they *GASP* witnessed something? Why, just two weekends ago, Phil and I were enjoying a nice BBQ dinner on the rooftop terrace with some friends and don't we all start talking about ghost stories. Needless to say, their tales were spine chilling and I didn't sleep well that night. For the record, I don't have anything against spirits, quite to the contrary actually.
Energy and vibrations
I am a believer in energy, vibrations and the unexplained world of spirits since they seem to be a form of energy as well. To me, it is all connected. For example, you know how happy and optimistic individuals shine and have that contagious vibe? That's energy that vibrates. You are literally shining with all your being and others, some more sensitive to it, can feel it. There are such things as positive vibrations or "vibes" as we all say. How about powerful coincidences that happen? Think that's just luck? Not on my watch. That's energy as well and we make it happen Once again, there are things science just cannot explain and I am definitely open to the theories of energy and the law of attraction.
It just makes me wonder, what are these ghosts up to? What messages are they trying to tell us? I have read in a particularly good book that some entities aren't even aware that they have passed away and carry on "living" the way they used to. It would be hundreds of years before they gain consciousness and leave. Others are frightened (go figure!), some are angry and others feed on your negatives spiral of energy when you are feeling particularly low or stuck in a rut (alcoholism, drug addictions, gambling, maladaptive coping mechanisms). On the other hand, it also explains the good and peaceful entities that, if we met them, would overwhelm us with peace and serenity to the point of crying (that is how I felt when I woke up from my visitation dream last year). We apparently also have guides that are there for us. There is so much more and this book explains the concept quite simply and clearly. If you have any interest in it, I highly recommend it: L'Astral Demystifié. It was recommend to me by a good friend ;)
They receive everything you send them
It is in this book that I learn that entities usually do not visit those who are scared or unopened their energy. Perhaps that is why they have not appeared to me, yet. I am far to afraid of them to set a good energy for them. The book also mentions that individuals who have passed do receive the emotions and energy you are sending them. They apparently sense and receive what you are trying to convey and can hear what you are saying or the mental messages your are sending them.
When I had read this, I specifically went and had a full blown out loud conversation with all the individuals close to me that had passed and sent them all my positive messages, especially Lucie. There is so much I had to say and I encouraged them all move on to the light (apparently, they do have to get to that famous light and higher realm). I also repeated that I'd prefer them visiting me in my dreams rather than in the middle of the night when I make my way to the bathroom. You know, just to be clear ;)
If you have unresolved business with a deceased person, you can go ahead and let them know how you feel and release that emotion so that they too, can release theirs, forgive themselves if they need to and move on. Last year, I wrote about my friend Wesley who had passed at the age of 19 over ten years ago and how he visited me in my dream. It was the most powerful dream I have ever had so far in my life and I will never forget the experience. You can go in my September 2014 archives on the top right hand side of the page if you want to read it! Also, if you would like to know what the characteristics of a visitation dream are, click here to see a blog post that sums them up nicely. My dream of Wesley had all of them. When the dreams depict the deceased individual as unwell, punishing or in a negative manner on the other hand, it isn't a visitation dream.
Since she has passed, I hadn't really dreamt of Lucie. It has been over a year now that she has passed and still nothing. I still spoke to her and sent her positive messages. I apologized for anything negative I may have unconsciously done and always sent her light. I have been lighting the salt candle and lamp she had given me more religiously (apparently those are good to keep positive vibes!).
Before going to sleep that night, I was thanking the universe once more for an awesome day I had and sent in a few requests here and there. The part of my dream where I met up with Lucie was at someone else's house and it was the holidays. I was on my own waiting for people to arrive, my husband had gone off to pick them up. The doorbell rings, I march to the door, open it and there is Lucie with a giant smile on her face, holding a tray of muffins, yes, the ones she made all the time. Just like I did with Wesley, I grabbed her shoulders and said "OH my GOD! What are you DOING here??!!" in the sense that we all knew she wasn't supposed to be there. How could she possibly be here with us at our human holiday party when she should be up in heaven partying with angels. She didn't quite answer my question but happily walked in, her mother and Phil following. She went straight into the house to set her tray of food somewhere, all smiles. She was so happy to be there with us. I took a step back to look at her and Phil came near me and said: "you know, she sacrificed one of her days in her life to be here today" and the dream was over.
Feeling upon wakening
A little like Wesley's dream, when I woke up, I went about my day. I dragged my butt to the gym and in the middle of my jog, it all came rushing back to me: "holy SH*T! It HAPPENED AGAIN!" It truly felt like I had seen Lucie the day before. Then I realized this could have been a visit. It was a little less clear this time since it wasn't as sequential and there were other people present in the dream. She also didn't have the white light that I had seen in Wesley, but she definitely had a happy glow.
I had always felt that Lucie would have wanted to have more fun but that unfortunately, the realities of life were holding her back. She had gone through a lot in the last ten years and had worked very hard. I had always wanted her to "kick her shoes off and enjoy", but then, I did not know the thoughts and emotions that her heart held on to. That being said, in this process, Lucie had many food restrictions, some self-imposed and others were doctor's orders when she was undergoing chemotherapy.
Appetite has a great significance. It equals health and happiness. The body is alive and feeds to maintain a wellness balance. In the world of me, having a good appetite means being in a good place, having appetite for life (all things in moderation obviously), wanting to try new things, abundance! Ever notice that when you are nervous or unhappy, appetite is all out of whack? Why do you think doctors monitor appetite in hospitals? It is part of the foundation of well-being, so if that goes, things aren't going so well. Therefore, Lucie bringing a tray of food or a dish of some kind in the dream means she is back to cooking and eating like she used to! She is happy and free at last.
In fact, in one of the conversations I had with her, from the human world to the spirit world, was that I wished for my grand-parents, Angelina and Rinaldo whom are in heaven as well, were showing her a good time up there and that she was partying with them. Because if there is someone in my family who enjoyed hosting good family gatherings, it was and is definitely my nonna. And man could she cook up a storm! Topping it off with my grandfather playing the accordion? I am certain those two are enchanting their surroundings just being who they are. So, that being said, I prayed that they could show her a good time and for her to just let go and find happiness. In my visitation dream, that is what I understood she was doing. She was cooking, eating and enjoying the festivities!
Thank you for coming to see me Lucie! Come back again when you can... :)
Your now official daughter in law,
My name is Ivana. I love photography and meeting people. I hold a Master's in counselling psychology and work as a career consultant. Music is my fuel and an important source of energy in my life. I drive my vespa around the city and I love what I do! :) About this blog: me on my artistic soap box!
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